Date Smart
How to meet good men, read the early signs, date safely and build something real. 23 short video lectures for women 18 and over, free. No sign-up: scroll down and press play. Every lecture includes his side: what the man is likely thinking. Built from peer-reviewed research and government and legal sources, and taught by Brent Cartright.
Module 1 · Where you're starting
Dating right now: why it feels like this
Who is single and who is looking, why dating apps leave women overwhelmed and men insecure, why many women say dating got riskier, and this course's promise: responsibility for harm always sits with the person who causes it.
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What men actually want, and what they say they want
What men say they want in a partner, what they actually choose face to face, why men are choosy about partners but not about flings, and three myths about men that the research doesn't support.
WatchModule 2 · Knowing what you want
Your values, your dealbreakers, your standards
Why couples match most on values, what the young values gap means for dating, why a long checklist can't predict chemistry, and how to hold a few firm standards instead of a shopping list.
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Confidence without games
What the research says about playing hard to get and texting rules, why doing the approaching builds confidence, why affirmations can backfire, and what to make of a man who pulls back when you outshine him.
WatchModule 3 · Where to meet, and apps used well
Not only apps: where couples actually meet
How American couples met in nineteen ninety-five and twenty seventeen, why so many relationships start as friendships, why looks matter less the longer people know each other, and why a weekly group is worth a month of swiping.
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Too many profiles: overload and the rejection mind-set
Why swiping through more profiles makes people pickier and less hopeful, why a bigger pool pushes attention to surface traits, why lots of matches don't make women less lonely, and how to swipe less and see more.
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Profiles, photos and sending the first message
Why a woman's first message costs her nothing, why friends should pick your photos, how honest profiles really are, and how to screen first messages for respect.
WatchModule 4 · Safety first
Before you meet: vetting, the video call, catfish and scams
The romance-scam warning signs, a reverse image search and a short live video call before you meet, the one money rule that never bends, and where to report a scam in Canada and the US.
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The first meeting, and getting home
The simple plan for a first meeting, getting there and home on your own, the text that tells a friend you're safe, what men really think about who pays, and why a good date survives a no thanks.
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Alcohol and drink spiking
Why alcohol itself is the drug used most often, simple drink habits that protect you and your friends, what to do in the first hours if you think someone was drugged, and why the fault always lies with the person who did it.
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Sextortion, intimate images and deepfakes
Who sextortion targets, what the law now says in Canada and the US about intimate images and realistic fakes, the steps to take in the first hour, where adults report, and why it is never your fault. General information, not legal advice.
WatchModule 5 · Reading him
Is he interested, and in what? Ask him
Why a man's interest is usually easier to read than a woman's, why what he says about casual sex is worth believing, why steady plans beat any single text, and a plain way to ask what he's looking for.
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Mixed signals, ghosting and breadcrumbing
What ghosting and breadcrumbing are, what the research says about who ghosts and why, why mixed signals usually mean low investment, and how to close the door kindly, or simply close it.
WatchModule 6 · Red flags and green flags
Too much, too fast: love-bombing and first-sight charm
Why the research on love-bombing is weak, why the stronger finding is that narcissistic charm peaks at the first meeting and fades over weeks, why negging has no evidence behind it, and why time is the test.
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Control: the pattern behind the red flags
The warning signs of a controlling relationship as listed by loveisrespect, the US National Domestic Violence Hotline and the RCMP, the Canadian numbers on young women and partner abuse, what gaslighting really means, and how to stay close to a friend. Content note: partner abuse. General information, not therapy.
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What's already a crime, and what's coming
What changed in Canada's Criminal Code on 18 July 2026, including criminal harassment, tracking and threats to share intimate images, what the coercive-control law will cover when it takes effect by June 2028 at the latest, and where to get legal help. Content note: stalking and partner abuse. General information, not legal advice; laws differ in the United States.
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Green flags are boring, and boring lasts
What men and women both rate highest in a partner, why responsiveness, reliability and a kind response on a bad day matter more than fireworks, what a huge study of couples found, and why a man who takes a soft no well is worth noticing.
WatchModule 7 · Boundaries and consent
No, in any words
Why ordinary refusals are soft and still count, what Canadian law says about a no by words or conduct and implied consent, what a Canadian trial found about a resistance programme, and why a good man hears the first no. General information, not legal advice.
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Pacing intimacy, honestly
What the research on the timing of sex can and can't tell you, why sliding before deciding is the likely mechanism, why the reasons for sex matter, and why a past yes isn't a standing yes. No date number, because no study supports one.
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Your rights, and if something happens
Content note: sexual assault, discussed in plain, non-graphic words. Your rights under Canadian consent law, what counts as coercion in American survey terms, your choices after an assault, and how to support a friend. General information, not legal advice.
WatchModule 8 · From dating to a relationship
Decide, don't slide: commitment and appreciation
What drives commitment, why believing your partner is committed matters most, what the research says about moving in together, and why appreciation is the cheapest thing that keeps couples together.
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Fighting fair, and attachment without the labels
The demand and withdraw pattern and why whoever wants the change tends to push, what the four horsemen can and can't predict, a short programme that halved breakups, and why attachment is two dials, not a personality box.
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When to leave, "he'll change", and where to get help
Why mixed feelings are normal, why he needs me isn't a reason to stay, what the research says about people changing, the signals to take seriously, and where to get help in Canada and the United States. The course finale.
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